- Opening doors for others. When going into buildings, allow women and elders to go first and open the door for them. When preceding others into a building, don't let the door slam in the face of those behind, but hold the door until the person behind can grab it. If someone holds the door for you, then remember to say "thank you." Elevators/Transit: allow those in the elevator/subway to exit first before entering. Same with buildings or rooms - if someone is exiting the building or room through the same door you are entering, let them exit first.
- Remove your hat when sitting down to eat, at the playing of the national anthem or during prayer. Some men prefer to not wear hats indoors as a sign of respect.
- Don’t phone before 7:00 am and after 10:00 pm [unless in an emergency].
- When on the phone, don't talk with others in the room. Also, leave the room to talk in private if at all possible.
- Clean up after yourself. Especially when you are visiting a friend’s home.
- Smile. Your whole demeanor should be pleasant and well-mannered and respectful. Take your time and observe people – do they take their shoes off, then you probably should too.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
I have thoroughly enjoyed the lively discussion these suggestions have made on the blog and Facebook. Here are a few more. Am I a prude? A prig? An out-dated goody-two-shoes?
Monday, November 09, 2009
Here are some more MANners for you gentlemen to "chew on." Not everyone has liked my suggestions so far, yet they don't seem to give a lot of reasons why in the comments. Tell us why you think these are off-base.
- Never talk when there is food in your mouth.
- Avoid chewing your food with your mouth open.
- Sit up straight in your chair.
- At formal meals, stand whenever a lady sits or gets up from table.
- Learn place settings. It is not that hard!
- Simply use utensils in order as the meal is served.
- Place your napkin on your lap.
- Cut meat with your knife in your right hand and fork in left. Then transfer utensils to take a bite. (Reverse if left-handed.) There is some variance of opinion on whether or not one should cut all the meat at once and then eat, or cut one piece at a time.
- Never use your fingers to push food onto your fork. That is what your knife is for.
- Do not eat until the host has picked up her utensil. Also, do not begin to eat until you have been passed all of the food. Wait until everyone is served before eating.
- Eat slowly and don't gobble up the food. Someone took a long time to prepare the food, enjoy it slowly. Slowly means to wait about 5 seconds after swallowing before getting another forkful.
- When eating rolls, tear off a piece of bread before buttering. Do not cut your roll with your knife but break in pieces with your hands.
- Don’t clear the dishes off the table until everyone has finished eating.
- Don’t start eating your dessert until the hostess sits down and begins hers. This may mean you have to sit looking at an incredible piece of dessert for some time. Deal with this. :-)